Must Read For Over Bearing Over Protective Parents!

Here's a very important song for parents and teenagers to hear alike: Pink Floyd - " MOTHER " The Wall 1980 (youtube.com)

Sometimes mothers get over-protective (story of this song) and sometimes it's the fathers. Either way, not good 😊 as it stunts the development of their sons and daughters.

Parents have two jobs at hand: 1) Make sure their children grow up to be men and women of integrity and 2) Make sure their children grow up to be men and women capable of thinking and living independently.

For the first, lead by example. Children and the youth are intelligent and observant. They learn more by watching you than by listening to what you say.

For the second, as your children grow up and pass through their teenage years, encourage them to think for themselves and take responsibility for their decisions and actions.

The two biggest decisions any human being takes are: 1) What to do with their lives professionally, and 2) Whom to marry (if they choose to marry at all). At least in India, most parents fail their children on both these counts.

I have seen eighteen year olds being told which career path to choose by their parents on the pretext that their brains are not fully developed to take this decision 😅! Well, this way their brains will never get fully developed 😅! Eighteen is the age when one is pronounced an adult and enters college. If even this decision, what to study in college, is not their own, where is the hope of them being able to think independently and confidently on any other matter. Not to mention the frustration they will go through for years and years because they are doing what they simply don't enjoy doing!

And the curse of arranged marriage is simply not leaving India for some reason! Who to spend one's entire life with has to be one's own decision. Absolutely nothing else makes any sense whatsoever!

Be humble parents, be humble! Listen to your children, listen to your teenagers! Yes, when needed, discipline them by all means, but listen first, and know the difference between disciplining someone and being over-bearing and over-protective. It's a gentle balance to keep and your getting this balance right is critical for your children's future. You will leave this Earth some day. Make sure you leave behind confident, happy, fulfilled adults capable of independent thought and action.