Relationships: Ask The Big Questions

Relationships need to be nurtured by our hearts - not managed by minds.

Ask the big questions:

God forbid, but if you came in harm's way and needed protecting: Will your man stand ground? Will he take blows for you? Will he risk his very life to protect you, or will he scoot like a scared bandicoot?

God forbid, but if you fall ill and need nurturing: Will your woman stand ground? Will she patiently take care of you till needed? Or will she scamper in search for the next Mogambo to go to the movies and wine and dine with?

Ask such big questions. If the answers are a clear Yes, you've got something going. Stop keeping an accounts balance of everything you do and he or she doesn't. Just love in the way you love! And let your partner love you in the way he or she loves! Everyone is different. Everyone expresses love differently. Understand this principle. No, this does not justify one person doing all the work and the other just lounging around. But I don't have much patience with hour to hour timetabling either. Loosen up a bit! LOVE!

And if the answers are a No, what in the world are you doing with such a person? Let go. Nothing more to say. Just let such people go. Better alone than the company of nimkampoophs!

[The above post was motivated by a memory popping up: An old old friend of mine asking me : Why should women fast for their husbands' well being on Karva Chauth when men don't? Her husband is also an old old friend of mine. So I already know the answers to the big questions. I posed the questions. She fasts for his good health every year till date. And basks, absolutely basks, in his blazing love.

And no, Karva Chauth fasts are not about one gender suppressing or exploiting another. Women who suffer from diabetes or have other constraints that make it difficult or risky for them to fast don't hold Karva Chauth fasts. It has never been about force. It's always been about love.]