Keep Your Emotional Self Intact!

Have you heard this one by Janis Joplin: Janis Joplin - Ball & Chain - Monterey Pop - YouTube

I don't think singers like her come around too often :). I believe she just put every ounce of emotion inside her out there :).

Although I must add that I think people allow themselves to get too hurt emotionally over breakups. There are several possible scenarios:

If one feels that one has been conned from the start, then obviously there's anger. So express that anger, let the other person know how you feel. But don't allow yourself to get emotionally devastated. It's not worth it. Move on in your life.

Then sometimes it's not a case of being conned from the start, you know your partner is a genuine man/woman. But if there comes a time when he/she comes and tells you that they are drawn to someone else and want to leave, then respect that honesty. And wish them well. Here too, protect yourself from going down emotionally. I'm telling you: It's not worth it. Life is much larger than a relationship that didn't work out. Move on. Don't get stuck. Move on.

And sometimes, well, relationships fall apart despite all sincerity, things just don't work out despite both people giving it their best. There can be severe personality differences, extremely different viewpoints on some matters that are centrally important to both of you. This can happen sometimes. If it does, again, let each other go in peace, with goodwill. Preserve your friendship if you can. And again, protect yourself emotionally :). I can't emphasize this enough. Don't allow yourself to get emotionally broken. It's not worth it. Move on. Move on.